Thich Nhat Hanh’s – 4 wonderful mantras for couples.
This wonderful clip sums up EFT in 3 minutes. Although Thich Nhat Hanh is not purposefully referring to Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), he manages to capture it perfectly. Simple, deep and wonderful!
The videos below are by Sue Johnson, who is the founder of EFT (Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy). They give a good sense of the theory and are interesting and insightful.
Sue Johnson – What is a healthy marriage?
Relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson addresses what constitutes a healthy marriage..
3.51 minutes
Sue Johnson – How can I tell if my marriage is in trouble, and what can I do to prevent breakup?
“Relationship expert Sue Johnson identifies warning signs in a marriage and what you can do to prevent issues from destroying your relationship…”
5.45 minutes
Sue Johnson – Integrating Heart and Soul: The New Science of Attachment & EFT
We are born to bond. Relationships are full of moving away from love and then moving again toward love. The going out from love, and the return to love is the heartbeat of life. John Bowlby famously said that “all of us, from the cradle to the grave, are happiest when life is organized as a series of excursions, long or short, from the secure base provided by our attachment figures.” . . .
Sue Johnson – How can I tell if my relationship will last?
Sue Johnson reveals how to tell if your relationship will stand the test of time.
4.23 minutes
Sue Johnson – Do opposites attract? (And should they?)
Relationship expert Sue Johnson talks about how opposites attract … and if they really should.
3.29 minutes
John Gottman –Making relationships work (Part 1)
Dr. John Gottman looks at relationships and the habits that are helpful versus the habits that are not helpful. Speaks of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. Dr. Gottman offers ways of healing intense conflict.
10.10 minutes
John Gottman – Making relationships Work (Part 2)
Dr John Gottman looks at the ability to repair when we feel hurt and good habits to start developing.
10 minutes
John Gottman – Making relationships Work (Part 3)
Vital elements that build a positive emotional connection in relationship: love maps, turning toward emotional bids from our partners, fondness and admiration.
10 minutes
John Gottman – Making Relationships Work – Part 4
Questions from people after Dr John Gottman’s talk.
OSHO: Love is Authentic Only if it Gives Freedom
“Love is authentic only when it gives freedom. When it respects his individuality, his privacy. But the lovers that you see around the world, their whole effort is that nothing should be private; all secrets should be told to them. They are afraid of individuality…”
7 minutes
Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. Brené Brown studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
20 minutes
Validation
Watch first 5 minutes of this clip and you’ll be smiling from ear to ear.
It’s not about the nail
Spoof of the masculine need to solve the problem and the feminine need to be heard and empathised with. This is very funny and highlights the difference so well, but it’s also biased in favour of the masculine so enjoy with awareness.
John Gottman – The importance of trust
The renowned marriage expert explains how trust may be the most vital ingredient to a successful relationship.
5.38 minutes
Eckhart Tolle – Dealing With Anger, Resistance and Pessimism
How we shift from being our anger to having the anger in our energy field and observing it. Anger becomes a spiritual practice.
13 minutes
Viktor Frankl: Why to believe in others
In this rare clip from 1972, legendary psychiatrist and Holocaust-survivor Viktor Frankl delivers a powerful message about the human search for meaning and the most important gift we can give others.
4 minutes
Hedy Schleifer–The Power of Connection
In Relationship there are three invisible connectors: the space, the bridge and the encounter. When people make these three invisible connectors visible in their lives, and embrace them fully, the “miracle” of connection happens. The space is the relational space “between” people. In order to honor that space, one must cross the bridge, and bring one’s full and authentic presence to the world of the “other”. And in doing so, the perfect conditions are established to create a true “meeting”, an encounter of the souls. Once the space has been honored, and the bridge has been crossed, a genuine, nourishing and fulfilling relationship is established.
20 minutes
Eckhart Tolle – One-sided love relationship
A brilliant explanation of what happens in relationship.
7 minutes
Ram Dass speaks about dealing with anger.
Ram Dass speaks about dealing with fear.